Archive for January, 2008

Review: Pillars of the Earth

Title: Pillars of the Earth
Author: Ken Follet

Summary

In a time of civil war, famine and religious strife, there rises a magnificent Cathedral in Kingsbridge. Against this backdrop, lives entwine: Tom, the master builder, Aliena, the noblewoman, Philip, the prior of Kingsbridge, Jack, the artist in stone and Ellen, the woman from the forest who casts a curse. At once, this is a sensuous and enduring love story and an epic that shines with the fierce spirit of a passionate age. (Taken from here)

Positive Elements

The story line is compelling. The author is so vivid with the details reading this book makes you feel like you are part of the 12th century. You empathize with the characters and their plights. It is a classic good vs evil saga. This book has elements in the story that would appear to variety of readers; a love story, war, medieveal history. It is a long book, 900 pages, it moves very fast. It almost like watching a good movie.

Sexual Content

There was more sexual content in this book than I imagined there would be. Early on in the book there is a rape scene between two of the central characters of the story that sets the stage for the entire storyline. There are also several vivid descriptions of sexual encounters between the characters. Some, I believe a little to gratitous and not necessary to the overall story.

Violent Content

The setting of this novel is 12 century England otherwise known as the Dark Ages. A term you will understand much more after reading this book. This time in history was known for its savage wars, unmatched cruelty and desperate means of survival. There are many paticularly violent scenes. The book open with the hanging of a thief. This sets stage for more savage acts including rape, murder and torture. I was a little disturbed by the amount of violence in the book. Some of the violence was central to the storyline in helping the reader understand the conditions of 12 century lifestyle. I often skipped over detailed descriptions of fighting and the war as I thought it was unecessary to the plot of the novel.

Profanity Content

I do remember several instances of profanity. It would seem to appear in random points through the book. Much of the profanity is related to the degradation of women.

Drug Content

None that I recall.

Conclusion

This book covers two generations and their quest to survive one of the most brutal periods of history. I would give caution to those readers who are sensitive to violence, as Follet spares no details in their description. The plot of this novel revolves around the building of magnificent cathedral. However, I would not call this a religious or Christian book by any means. The priests and the bishops portrayed in the book are the most ruthless and corrupt characters of the entire book. The novel certainly doesn’t provide a reader with a very positive view of the early times of the church. I thought that the story was well written and the characters are well developed. This book is well over 900 pages. So it will take some time to finish this book.

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Babywearing Resources

Websites & Blogs:

The Baby Wearer — website on babywearing; has reviews, articles, forums, products for sale, and much more

Ask Dr. Sears — babywearing information from Dr. Sears’ site

Babywearing International — a nonprofit organization whose mission is to promote babywearing as a universally accepted practice, with benefits for both child and caregiver, through education and support.

Peppermint –  group dedicated to babywearing. Site has carriers by age, position, brand, and more. They have many resources including how to choose a carrier. Great resource!

Magic City Slingers — blog dedicated to babywearing

Articles:

NINO handout – Nine In Nine Out (NINO) organization’s handout on babywearing; great at a glance brochure

Bliss of Babywearing — brochure on the benefits of babywearing

Infant Carriers and Spinal Stress — article on spinal stress caused by some baby carriers

“Babywearing Tips” — article from Mothering magazine

Accessories:

Ergo sucking pad — babies will suck on just about anything and everything so this is a cloth to put on the straps

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If I Nurse for a Day…

Hello! My name is Amber and Lisa has asked me to contribute to this site. I, by no means, am an expert on this motherhood thing but I do have a few years of experience. One of my most strongly held beliefs as a Christian mother is that our bodies were designed by God for this task of motherhood. I was constantly amazed during my pregnancies how beautifully my body fit the task at hand. I was even more amazed after my first child was born at how perfectly my body continued its job. Breastfeeding was, by no means, easy and trial-free for me but as my child and I worked through the process together, it was confirmed again and again to me that breastfeeding is how babies were designed to eat. I often encounter moms in various stages in the feeding relationships and I seek to encourage and inform. In my perfect world, all babies would be fed at their mother’s breasts until they wean on their own…but I also recognize that that is not the reality in this generation. But NEVER FEAR! There is great benefit in every single session of breastfeeding, whether it is 1 or 1,000! I read the following piece recently and thought it was very informative and true. Enjoy!

IF I NURSE FOR A DAY…

Breastfeeding your baby for even a day is the best baby gift you can give. Breastfeeding is almost always the best choice for your baby. If it doesn’t seem like the best choice for you right now, these guidelines may help.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR JUST A FEW DAYS, he will have received your colostrum, or early milk. By providing antibodies and the food his brand-new body expects, nursing gives your baby his first – and easiest – “immunization” and helps get his digestive system going smoothly. Breastfeeding is how your baby expects to start, and helps your own body recover from the birth. Why not use your time in the hospital to prepare your baby for life through the gift of nursing?

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR FOUR TO SIX WEEKS, you will have eased him through the most critical part of his infancy. Newborns who are not breastfed are much more likely to get sick or be hospitalized, and have many more digestive problems than breastfed babies. After 4 to 6 weeks, you’ll probably have worked through any early nursing concerns, too. Make a serious goal of nursing for a month, call La Leche League or a Lactation Consultant if you have any questions, and you’ll be in a better position to decide whether continued breastfeeding is for you.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 3 OR 4 MONTHS, her digestive system will have matured a great deal, and she will be much better able to tolerate the foreign substances in commercial formulas. If there is a family history of allergies, though, you will greatly reduce her risk by waiting a few more months before adding anything at all to her diet of breastmilk. And giving nothing but your milk for the first four months gives strong protection against ear infections for a whole year.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 6 MONTHS, she will be much less likely to suffer an allergic reaction to formula or other foods. At this point, her body is probably ready to tackle some other foods, whether or not you wean. Nursing for at least 6 months helps ensure better health throughout your baby’s first year of life, and reduces your own risk of breast cancer. Nursing for 6 months or more may greatly reduce your little one’s risk of ear infections and childhood cancers. And exclusive, frequent breastfeeding during the first 6 months, if your periods have not returned, provides 98% effective contraception.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 9 MONTHS, you will have seen him through the fastest and most important brain and body development of his life on the food that was designed for him – your milk. You may even notice that he is more alert and more active than babies who did not have the benefit of their mother’s milk. Weaning may be fairly easy at this age… but then, so is nursing! If you want to avoid weaning this early, be sure you’ve been available to nurse for comfort as well as just for food.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR A YEAR, you can avoid the expense and bother of formula. Her one-year-old body can probably handle most of the table foods your family enjoys. Many of the health benefits this year of nursing has given your child will last her whole life. She will have a stronger immune system, for instance, and will be much less likely to need orthodontia or speech therapy. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends nursing for at least a year, to help ensure normal nutrition and health for your baby.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 18 MONTHS, you will have continued to provide your baby’s normal nutrition and protection against illness at a time when illness is common in other babies. Your baby is probably well started on table foods, too. He has had time to form a solid bond with you – a healthy starting point for his growing independence. And he is old enough that you and he can work together on the weaning process, at a pace that he can handle. A former U.S. Surgeon General said, “it is the lucky baby… that nurses to age two.”

IF YOUR CHILD WEANS WHEN SHE IS READY, you can feel confident that you have met your baby’s physical and emotional needs in a very normal, healthy way. In cultures where there is no pressure to wean, children tend to nurse for at least two years. The World Health Organization and UNICEF strongly encourage breastfeeding through toddlerhood: “Breastmilk is an important source of energy and protein, and helps to protect against disease during the child’s second year of life.”* Our biology seems geared to a weaning age of between 2 1/2 and 7 years**, and it just makes sense to build our children’s bones from the milk that was designed to build them. Your milk provides antibodies and other protective substances as long as you continue nursing, and families of nursing toddlers often find that their medical bills are lower than their neighbors’ for years to come. Mothers who have nursed longterm have a still lower risk of developing breast cancer. Children who were nursed longterm tend to be very secure, and are less likely to suck their thumbs or carry a blanket. Nursing can help ease both of you through the tears, tantrums, and tumbles that come with early childhood, and helps ensure that any illnesses are milder and easier to deal with. It’s an all-purpose mothering tool you won’t want to be without! Don’t worry that your child will nurse forever. All children stop eventually, no matter what you do, and there are more nursing toddlers around than you might guess.

WHETHER YOU NURSE FOR A DAY OR FOR SEVERAL YEARS, the decision to nurse your child is one you need never regret. And whenever weaning takes place, remember that it is a big step for both of you. If you choose to wean before your child is ready, be sure to do it gradually, and with love.

*Facts for Life: A Communication Challenge, published by UNICEF, WHO, and UNESCO, 1989
**K Dettwyler. A Time to Wean. Breastfeeding Abstracts vol 14 no 1 1994
©1997 Diane Wiessinger, MS, IBCLC 136 Ellis Hollow Creek Road Ithaca, NY 14850

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Babywearing Basics

Babywearing is carrying your baby close to your body in a sling, pouch, wrap, or other baby carrier. It fosters trust and attachment, frees up your hands, and is much more comfortable than carrying your baby in your arms. Research shows that babies who are carried cry 40-50% less. Just as newborns love to be swaddled, babywearing gives the same feeling of closeness.

If you are getting ready to choose a carrier, you should know that not all soft carriers are created equal. Some soft carriers have been linked to hip dysplasia because of their design (i.e. Baby Bjorn), so it’s important to choose one with an ergonomic design that disperses most of the baby’s weight between the hips and thighs, which helps to eliminate compression of the spine.

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If you are new to babywearing, here are some tips for getting started:

  1. Review babywearing terms or have them nearby. Keeping everything straight in the beginning is important.
  2. Narrow down what type of carrier is right for you. Consider how old your baby is, what position(s) you want to carry him in, what activities you will mostly be doing, and whether or not you have any physical restrictions. Using those thoughts, compare babycarriers. A list of all carriers can be found at TheBabyWearer. The chart is not very easy to read, but it’s the most comprehensive I’ve found.
  3. Once you have 2 or 3 choices narrowed down, ask family and friends what they know about your choices and see if you can borrow one of theirs for a short time. If no one you know has the carrier you’re interested in, contact the girls at Magic City Slingers. They have a lending library of carriers that members can try.
  4. Purchase your carrier at a retail store, ebay, or yard sales. I got my Mei Tai from ebay much cheaper than the list price from EllaRoo. It was $30 with shipping. My Ergo came from a consignment shop.

There are several contributors to the site who are avid babywearers. If you have any questions, any of us would be happy to share what we know about them. It took me almost 6 months to settle on my final choice, so if we can help you get it right the first time, by all means, ask questions. Best wishes!

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My Babywearing Journey

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I have loved “wearing” my son since birth. I think it’s mostly because I can be out and about doing the things I love and he is contently with me taking it all in. I tried 4 different soft carriers before settling on my favorite. I tried the Mei Tai first and loved it while he was small. As he got heavier I noticed that the knots “settled” and the straps seemed to loosen, often causing back pain. It was a nuisance to stop and retie the knots while we were out, especially if he had fallen asleep. I then tried the Ultimate Baby Wrap. I liked that it had a ring for easy tightening, but the material naturally sagged and it too hurt my back. I was constantly pulling to make it tighter and tighter. Next I tried a friend’s sling, but my son hated it. Finally, my chiropractor suggested the Ergo. I went to the website and read the following:

“The ERGObaby carrier’s ergonomic design supports a correct sitting position for the baby’s hip, pelvis and spine growth. It disperses most of the baby’s weight between the hips and thighs, which helps to eliminate compression of the spine when hanging by the crotch which most other designs require. The ERGO also balances the baby’s weight to parents’ hips and shoulders, and alleviates physical stress for the parent.”

That sounded great coupled with the fact that there was a lumbar type support with a buckle and safety strap and a sternum strap. I then found a retailer who would let me try it on. I put my son in it and walked around the store and knew I had to get it. Ergos are expensive, but they are well made and worth every penny. I also liked it because it was a solid neutral color that my husband wouldn’t balk at wearing. I should admit though, that he still isn’t too keen on wearing it. I don’t think it has anything to do with the carrier itself. He prefers a framed hiking backpack. I think he thinks it’s more manly to have a hiking backpack, which is fine because it’s too bulky to take everywhere which means that I get to wear Blake in the Ergo!

If you like the idea of the Ergo, a relatively new carrier that others say is very similar to the Ergo is called the Beco Carrier and they are really quite stylish! They seem to be built in the same ergonomic way. All in all, when deciding on a carrier, I found it helpful to borrow friend’s carriers for a short time to see what I really liked. Recommendations are great, but everyone has different body types and annoyances, so what’s great for me, may not be great for you. Granted, I’ve never heard of anyone who didn’t like their Ergo, but it’s still great to give it a try before taking the plunge. Good luck and happy babywearing!

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